Category : Clare Mee

A poem about stoma surgery

Clare shares her story about life change through poetry, head over to a bigger life’s community to read the poem by clicking here. You can also follow Clare on her blog. Meet Clare

To tell or not to tell others about your stoma

“I personally thought it would be better for me to tell everyone I knew about my surgery. I have been extremely open, and for me I am happy to do that. But not everyone is the same and I know people with a stoma who don’t tell anyone other than close family.” Clare shares why she has no problem telling others about her stoma, head over to a bigger life’s community to read the full blog by clicking here. You […]

De-stressing with a stoma

“There are days when things get a bit much with my stoma. Either I have gone over my three day then change routine, or my stoma has been particularly active and watery, therefore causing a lot of itchiness under the pouch. It is worse if I am at work or out the house because I can’t do anything about it at that time.” To read Clare’s blog post about how she de-stresses when things become overwhelming for her, head over […]

Getting through stoma surgery with a little help from your friends

I have been thinking a lot lately about support networks, at home, work and socially, and I really believe that you can come to terms with your surgery if you don’t bottle it up and don’t avoid people. I know I have mentioned this subject before but think it is such an important part of recovery that it needs more discussion. “If you think someone is being cruel or they don’t understand, then see it differently, turn it around. It […]

Sex & relationships with a stoma

“Some people can’t bear to show their bodies to anyone, because mentally they are not able to come to terms with having a stoma. Others are very confident and don’t mind showing their bodies. I think the issues can lie with the partners too. If you find a loving caring person who loves you for you and doesn’t care about your issues, then the relationship will do well. If you meet someone who is reluctant to accept your stoma then […]

Coping with a stomal fistula

This is an unusual complication of IBD and stoma surgery. When having surgery I didn’t really know about or expect any weird and wonderful extra complications. I know of many with an abdominal fistula, which has its own issues, but I only know of one other with a fistula attached in some way to a stoma. A fistula is an abnormal tract that links two organs and my fistula links my small bowel to the skin right at the very […]

How A Bigger Life Community can help you

There are many communities out there for ostomates, but only a few are welcoming, friendly and inviting to everyone with great features. A bigger life was excellent for Clare, so when we announced our community she was just as excited as us to connect with all types of ostomates. To read Clare’s blog post, head over to A bigger life’s community by clicking here to read more. You can also follow Clare on her blog. Meet Clare

My stoma kit at home and on the go

I was given a bag in the hospital that I could have my supplies in on the go but I feel quite conspicuous with it, it shouts out “ I have a condition”, and it is just an extra bag to have to carry around. I do use it but it stays in the boot of my car as a precaution. ( I understand that it would be different for men with a stoma ) Now I just choose my […]

What does having a stoma mean to me?

Before surgery I would never believe that I would end up with a stoma. I would come across them in IBD literature and worry that it could be me but never really thought it would be. I didn’t have any real thoughts about what it would be like either. I had never seen one and didn’t have an opinion either way because as far as I was concerned it wasn’t me and probably never would be. I had had ulcerative […]

My experience with dehydration

I know that having an ileostomy means that I don’t absorb as much water as I used to, as the large bowel did most of that. I have never been a great water and fluid drinker so knew that I would have to change my ways. My husband regularly said that I wasn’t drinking enough even before my admission to hospital for fluids, but I was sure I was ok. I had my stoma for two years so far with […]